The first woman chief justice of a high court in India, the first woman to top the bar examinations in London 73 years old Leila Seth has led a full life. With candour and wit, she tells of her taking up law studies because this could be combined with caring for her husband and son, Intertwining family life with professional, the author describes the years after her father
The first woman chief justice of a high court in India, the first woman to top the bar examinations in London 73 years old Leila Seth has led a full life. With candour and wit, she tells of her taking up law studies because this could be combined with caring for her husband and son, Intertwining family life with professional, the author describes the years after her father's premature death. It is an intricate, amusing and charming rendering of her life.
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Some books march uninvited into the room tooting their own horn. They bellow loudly and rhetorically about their greatness while all you are trying to do is enjoy a horrendously sappy Hindi movie or search for that lost bookmark that you had stolen from a friend. In between the sounds of loud cymbal clashing, the book will boast that the New York Times called it "a real tour de force" or a "prophetic novel celebrating the triumph of righteous dissidence". If you stay adamant, the book will play
Some books march uninvited into the room tooting their own horn. They bellow loudly and rhetorically about their greatness while all you are trying to do is enjoy a horrendously sappy Hindi movie or search for that lost bookmark that you had stolen from a friend. In between the sounds of loud cymbal clashing, the book will boast that the New York Times called it "a real tour de force" or a "prophetic novel celebrating the triumph of righteous dissidence". If you stay adamant, the book will play dirty and remind you in an admonitory tone that it deals with that dreadful Holocaust or Pol Pot's Cambodia or some remote place in occupied Palestine and the injustices committed by the Israeli troops. So, if you are not interested in THAT, you must be a Very Bad Person.
Other books, meanwhile, tiptoe into the room. You don't even realise their presence until they gently murmur in your ear to please pass the popcorn. More often than not, such books wear strangely dull outfits. You know, the kind of clothes that some people wear hoping that they would not be noticed. No bright colours, shiny stars, cute unicorns or strange cover fonts for them. It's a bit like the 11-year old Harry Potter when he first joined school. Famous and very special but ridiculously modest and self-deprecating.
On Balance
is the Harry-Potter-in-his-first-year-at-Hogwarts kind of book. It is not at all what I had expected it to be like. Two weeks ago, if someone had asked me to read a 500-page autobiography, I would have run away like a gazelle attacked at a watering hole. However,
On Balance
is much more that just a meandering autobiography. Any book that made me up stay up all night to read it (something that I hadn't done for the past couple of years) deserves a 5/5 rating, especially if it's non-fiction.
The first time I read about Leila Seth in some trivia book (there was the usual question about her being India's first woman Chief Justice of a state), my mind immediately squealed, "Ooooh! Vikram Seth's mother!" On the other hand, the first time I showed my father my signed copy of
The Golden Gate
, he looked at the author's name and said, "Isn't this man Justice Leila Seth's son?" Perhaps a certain generation will always think of Vikram Seth in those terms. After reading this book, I believe that so will I.
Leila Seth is not
just
the mother of one of the most brilliant writers of our times. Yeah, sure, she has a star kid but she also has a remarkable success story of her own - first woman judge of the Delhi High Court, first woman Chief Justice of a State, and the first woman to top the Bar examinations in London.
I mean, really wow. Leila Seth can really sneak up on you and scribble out a book that you cannot (or do not want to) put down. In a largely male-dominated profession (especially in her times), she held her own and refused to be typecast by not fighting only women's cases. Instead, she competed with her male colleagues and fought all kinds of cases right from criminal ones to those dealing with tax matters, constitutional law and litigation. The book also gives a very interesting account of the legal profession. It not only provides insights into the prevalent gender bias but also talks about the painfully slow-paced Indian courts, increasing corruption in judiciary, and the rampant favouritism in certain spheres.
Besides her career, Ms Seth talks about her family, the loss of a child, interesting travels, quirky habits, gardening, arbitration and law commission and so on. It is evident that taking care of a family and establishing a successful career must have been difficult for her, particularly in an age when working women were incredibly rare. (There is a hilarious anecdote about lots of people from rural Haryana on a trip to Delhi especially visiting the courtroom because they wanted to goggle at her, a female judge.) However, she managed not only to have a happy married life and raise three ridiculously talented children but also rose to one of the highest positions in her career.
I love the fact that she has compiled this book with wrenching honesty right from talking about the bisexuality of Vikram Seth to the implication of her husband on false charges, and her peacenik son, Shantum's experiments with magic mushrooms and activism as well as his short stay in jail. The book is also peppered with many interesting vignettes. There is the funny but understandable concern of a mother whose colleagues at the Delhi High Court would badger her about her children "not settling down", and the hilarious dismissal of Vikram Seth by their family driver as someone who was "reading and writing and sleeping and eating and living off his parents." And somehow, the insane amount of intelligence and the wonderfully unconventional life paths of the Seth siblings forcefully remind me of Salinger's Glass family.
This is the kind of rare autobiography that you would want to read again. I do not say that it is a great masterpiece of literature. Rather, it is about a life well-lived and it is always good to read about something like that, isn't it?
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When I told my Mum that anyone who does not read this book would be a fool of first waters, her first question was,
"How is it even possible for a biography to be that good?"
Yes, more often, it is not possible for a biography to be that good. In fact, I am not a fan of the genre at all but maybe, there is something about the Seths that makes them the best biographers/memoir-writers in the world. Maybe they are just born that way!
Ok! Enough gushing-over the Seth family. Coming to the book and
When I told my Mum that anyone who does not read this book would be a fool of first waters, her first question was,
"How is it even possible for a biography to be that good?"
Yes, more often, it is not possible for a biography to be that good. In fact, I am not a fan of the genre at all but maybe, there is something about the Seths that makes them the best biographers/memoir-writers in the world. Maybe they are just born that way!
Ok! Enough gushing-over the Seth family. Coming to the book and
why you should read it
a) If you want to know how to be successful, read 'On Balance.'
b) If you want to know more about post-Independent India, read 'On Balance.'
c) To know how to have a successful family life, read 'On Balance.'
d)To know how to raise children, read 'On Balance.'
Above all, if you want to know how to write the story of your life so that it can teach others something new, something different, read 'On Balance.'
In other words, read it anyway. You'd be missing on something if you don't!
Leila Seth proves that she is the mother of Vikram Seth, in every sense of the word. She has the his poetic ease and his brilliance or rather, he has hers.
With her exceptionally brilliant autobiography, she shows that it doesn't take a miracle to be a successful career-woman along with being a successful homemaker. She is both a feminist and a supporter of family life. She makes it clear that you can be a feminist without being a male-basher, without hating men or patriarchy, that it's all about equality and balance.
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This brilliant autobiography fully deserves all the praise it's got. Leila Seth's claim to fame is being the first woman Chief Justice of an Indian state (Himachal Pradesh). She topped her Bar exams at London (she was the fist woman to do that, too). Here's a small vignette from the book:
Leila had just been appointed a Judge in the Delhi High Court (she was their first woman judge). There was a lot of discussion on how to address her in court. Should it 'My Lady' or the usual 'My Lord'? She wa
This brilliant autobiography fully deserves all the praise it's got. Leila Seth's claim to fame is being the first woman Chief Justice of an Indian state (Himachal Pradesh). She topped her Bar exams at London (she was the fist woman to do that, too). Here's a small vignette from the book:
Leila had just been appointed a Judge in the Delhi High Court (she was their first woman judge). There was a lot of discussion on how to address her in court. Should it 'My Lady' or the usual 'My Lord'? She was once judging a case along with a male judge. She asked a question of a lawyer and he replied, beginning, 'My Lord...'. The male judge interrupted, saying that the lawyer should address her as 'My Lady....'. The lawyer, confused and uncomfortable, turned to the male judge and responded to him as 'My Lord...' and answered the question as though it had sprung from him.
I hope that made you laugh. Not all of the book, will, though. The heartbreaking chapter on Ira is just very, very sad. But the book is lovely. I loved her descriptions of her gardens. Please read this book. Right away.
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This book is not about Vikram Seth or his homosexuality. If you want to know more about that, it's not in this book. This autobiography is about Leila Seth's life. Her family, her career, her marriage , 73 years of her lifetime. The book is written in easy, clear prose and you learn of this elegant woman, her sensibilities, her morality & how she shaped her life & managed its challenges. I was particularly moved by her revelation of having a child simply to hand over to her brother &
This book is not about Vikram Seth or his homosexuality. If you want to know more about that, it's not in this book. This autobiography is about Leila Seth's life. Her family, her career, her marriage , 73 years of her lifetime. The book is written in easy, clear prose and you learn of this elegant woman, her sensibilities, her morality & how she shaped her life & managed its challenges. I was particularly moved by her revelation of having a child simply to hand over to her brother & wife who desired one after losing three of their own. It takes courage, pure affection & selflessness to do that for anyone, even your own brother. The way she describes her relationships is the triumph of her life. The way she is with her parents, siblings, husband & children is spellbinding in its authenticity & purity. Her description of her career.. Made me snigger mostly. It's India, she's an educated woman, only the obvious prejudices & hypocrisies can be expected. Yet the way she behaves in all the scenarios she's put in teaches you what it takes to be a person of integrity. She inspires you to be positive & be the best version of yourself. A woman who deserves a lot of respect & admiration.
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This book is a treat not only for law students but for aspiring, ambitious women of our nation. Ex-Chief Justice Leila Seth has been an 'Outlier' all her life-from being the first woman topper in law from Oxford way back in 1952, the first woman Judge of the Delhi High Court to being the first woman Chief Justice of a High Court in India. She has even openly acknowledged the bisexual orientation of her son thereby creating a precedent for candor exhibited by a celebrity and a new platform for th
This book is a treat not only for law students but for aspiring, ambitious women of our nation. Ex-Chief Justice Leila Seth has been an 'Outlier' all her life-from being the first woman topper in law from Oxford way back in 1952, the first woman Judge of the Delhi High Court to being the first woman Chief Justice of a High Court in India. She has even openly acknowledged the bisexual orientation of her son thereby creating a precedent for candor exhibited by a celebrity and a new platform for the common man to emulate.
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I won't add to the several excellent reviews of this book here, but only recall a wonderful evening spent with Justice Seth and her wonderful husband and a large group of American seekers who had been led on the "Footsteps of the Buddha" tour of Northern India by her son Shantum. I had been a great fan of her other son Vikram and had enjoyed his talk at the British Library in Singapore when he received the Commonwealth Prize for
A Suitable Boy
, but it had not occurred to me that it would be his
I won't add to the several excellent reviews of this book here, but only recall a wonderful evening spent with Justice Seth and her wonderful husband and a large group of American seekers who had been led on the "Footsteps of the Buddha" tour of Northern India by her son Shantum. I had been a great fan of her other son Vikram and had enjoyed his talk at the British Library in Singapore when he received the Commonwealth Prize for
A Suitable Boy
, but it had not occurred to me that it would be his brother guiding the tour of Buddhist sites in Northern India which I took with two dozen Americans. Lucky that I did, for by doing so, I was able to also meet his illustrious mother.
Justice Seth has continued to be active publicly in India since her autobiography was published. She served, for example, on the Committee on Amendments to Criminal Law, chaired by a former chief justice of the Supreme Court of India, J.S. Verma. Their report was aimed at providing more adequate legal remedy to violated or threatened women. The recent letter by Justice Seth posted in the
New York Review of Books
arguing against the recent action of the Indian Supreme Court in re-instating criminal penalties against homosexuality well shows the honesty and integrity of this woman, tiny in physical stature, but very large in human stature. We are all lucky to have her on our planet.
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Poignantly delightful book about a life well lived and well loved. Justice Seth's account of her life as she sincerely balanced the many roles she played on both professional and personal front has filled me with inspiration and admiration. Wish I had picked this book earlier in life :)
Well, better late than never.
I always thought of Mrs. Leila Seth as Vikram Seth's mother, and was amazed by her good fortune to call this prodigy her son. Only now, after reading this beautifully penned autobiography do I realise the extent of her accomplishments, both in her professional and personal life.
The book's title has been chosen most wisely, for it not only acts as a subtle reference to the scales of justice, her chosen field of expertise, but also reflects on how she managed the various elements in her life astu
I always thought of Mrs. Leila Seth as Vikram Seth's mother, and was amazed by her good fortune to call this prodigy her son. Only now, after reading this beautifully penned autobiography do I realise the extent of her accomplishments, both in her professional and personal life.
The book's title has been chosen most wisely, for it not only acts as a subtle reference to the scales of justice, her chosen field of expertise, but also reflects on how she managed the various elements in her life astutely, not letting one overshadow the other, while at the same time leading a happy and satisfied life.
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This was quite an engrossing read. Seth has lived through so many interesting times and observed quite a great deal of historical changes--including, of course, her own list of firsts as a lawyer and judge in India. At the same time, the prose is a bit disjoined as she shifts from one moment to the next as there are many movements in the text that are not as smooth as they could be. Still, there is a great deal of value in this book and there is so much to admire and respect in this woman who wa
This was quite an engrossing read. Seth has lived through so many interesting times and observed quite a great deal of historical changes--including, of course, her own list of firsts as a lawyer and judge in India. At the same time, the prose is a bit disjoined as she shifts from one moment to the next as there are many movements in the text that are not as smooth as they could be. Still, there is a great deal of value in this book and there is so much to admire and respect in this woman who was and is quite a trailblazer.
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This one took a bit of getting used to. Justice Seth has a neat sense of decorum even when she writes. But it is when you get used to it, that she really starts talking to you...Loved part 3 in particular.
I felt proud of myself for knowing that Bata(where Vikram Seths dad worked) was not an Indian company. My first introduction to Buddhism and Thich Naht Hahn through Shantum. My first introduction to the Full Circle (Hello, West Delhi) And the first time, surprisingly, I read about Vikram Seth being gay. I remember the reviewer said that he would have gifted a copy to his daughter if she hadn't discussed that bit.
As a big fun of a Suitable Boy myself, I've been longing to read her book. She explains a glimpse of the scene in which Vikram Seth writing the story, setting up characters in line with the events in 1950s. Also, I love her writing with the sense of her sophistication and warm reagrds for others.
I think this is a fascinating memoir written by the first female judge on an Indian high court. Full disclosure - I know her, and her sons, Vikram and Shantum. If you are interested in Indian culture and/or global womens' issues, hers is a very interesting life.
She is so much more than Vikram's mum. Absolutely wonderful, and "sausages over the sink" remains with me as great imagery and capturing a life as a law student.
Born in Lucknow to an engineer of the railways in British India, Leila Seth joined the Bar in 1959. She was the first woman to top the London Bar exams in 1958. She handled a large number of Tax matters (Income Tax, Sales Tax, Excise and Customs), Civil, Company and Criminal cases as also Matrimonial suits and writ petitions. In 1978, she was appointed as the first woman judge on the Delhi High Co
Born in Lucknow to an engineer of the railways in British India, Leila Seth joined the Bar in 1959. She was the first woman to top the London Bar exams in 1958. She handled a large number of Tax matters (Income Tax, Sales Tax, Excise and Customs), Civil, Company and Criminal cases as also Matrimonial suits and writ petitions. In 1978, she was appointed as the first woman judge on the Delhi High Court. In 1991, she was appointed the Chief Justice of Himachal Pradesh and was thus the first woman to become Chief Justice of a state High Court in India.
Justice Seth also served on the Law Commission of India till 2000 and was responsible for the amendments to the Hindu Succession Act which gave equal rights to daughters in joint family property.
She is the mother of author Vikram Seth. Her autobiography
On Balance
was published in 2003. She has also written a book on the Constitution of India for children.
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