Jessica had always been haunted by the fear that the unthinkable had happened when she had been “made-up”. She had no sense of Self. Just
thinking
of saying “I need” or “I want” left her feeling like an empty shell and that her mind was about to spin out of control. Terrified of who—or
what
—she was, she lived in constant dread over being found guilty of impersonating a hum
Jessica had always been haunted by the fear that the unthinkable had happened when she had been “made-up”. She had no sense of Self. Just
thinking
of saying “I need” or “I want” left her feeling like an empty shell and that her mind was about to spin out of control. Terrified of who—or
what
—she was, she lived in constant dread over being found guilty of impersonating a human being. Jeffrey Von Glahn, Ph.D., an experienced therapist with an unshakable belief in the intrinsic healing powers of the human psyche, and Jessica, his courageous client, blaze a trail into this unexplored territory. As if she has, in fact, become an infant again, Jessica remembers in extraordinary detail events from the earliest days of her life—events that had threatened to twist her embryonic humanness from its natural course of development. Her recollections as an adult are the equivalent of listening to an infant
who could talk
describe every psychologically dramatic moment of its life as it is happening. Jessica’s electrifying journey into her mystifying past brings her ever closer to a final confrontation with the traumatic events that had threatened to strip her of her basic humanness.
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A fascinating true story of an abused woman who explores her past with the help of her therapist. She's able to recall past events, even at the point of her birth. While I believe it's possible to have very early childhood memories, I don't believe a baby, who cannot understand the meaning of words, would be able to recall the words spoken by nurses at birth. However, it's not the job of the author to judge her account, but rather to share it. He's gone to great pains to present Jessica's story
A fascinating true story of an abused woman who explores her past with the help of her therapist. She's able to recall past events, even at the point of her birth. While I believe it's possible to have very early childhood memories, I don't believe a baby, who cannot understand the meaning of words, would be able to recall the words spoken by nurses at birth. However, it's not the job of the author to judge her account, but rather to share it. He's gone to great pains to present Jessica's story as it was revealed to him, without making judgments. And so, I will also take her story at face value, and ignore the parts that seem impossible to me.
The reader gradually learns how Jessica's traumatic past has affected her, in the same way her therapist learned. It's quite interesting, and also very disturbing. I wavered between four stars and five, and finally came down on the high side. My temptation to give it only four was based on the fact I didn't believe everything Jessica said. But since this is a true account, I can hardly blame the author for reporting the facts, so to speak. The book was well-written and interesting, a nice departure from my usual fiction.
Note: i was given a copy of this book by the author in exchange for an honest review. This did not affect my opinion.
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This non-fiction book gave me a well deserved break from reading novels and fictions. It’s been a long time since I read a good nonfiction book, and this was a good one.
I also believe that childhood memories can be re-called, especially for healing purposes, just like in the case of Jessica, otherwise, why wake a sleeping lion. I marveled, as I read this book at the patience of the author. I cannot see many therapists exhibiting such patience, or sacrificing so much time to a single individual’s
This non-fiction book gave me a well deserved break from reading novels and fictions. It’s been a long time since I read a good nonfiction book, and this was a good one.
I also believe that childhood memories can be re-called, especially for healing purposes, just like in the case of Jessica, otherwise, why wake a sleeping lion. I marveled, as I read this book at the patience of the author. I cannot see many therapists exhibiting such patience, or sacrificing so much time to a single individual’s healing. But then, it was this patience that yielded results. Great job!
Towards the end, after Jessica discovered that she was two different persons, and refused to take back her me, and the author wanted her to re-think and take her me back, I tended to agree with Jessica, especially at her explanation on why she will not take her me back. That was the point in her treatment in which, I believe, she became well again. At that point, she recognized her real problem. And at that point, she could control her problem, even if she called it her me.
I read this book on my Kindle, and the formatting was off in many different places. At a point, I started to think that the author might have formatted the ebook himself, but when I read, at the end that the book was the product of iUniverse, I was surprised to see that they could do such a shoddy job. The book is so well written, that it did not deserve such bad formatting. My advice is that they take another look at the formatting.
In this true story Dr. Jeffrey Von Glahn follows his course of treatment with a patient he calls “Jessica”. When he first meets with Jessica Dr. Von Glahn struggles to get her to open up about her problems. Unable to remain home alone with her young child while her husband is at work she spends every night at her mother’s house. Along with this Jessica has lost the ability to drive. She has no explanation for these dramatic changes in her life and the doctor can’t seem to break through the barri
In this true story Dr. Jeffrey Von Glahn follows his course of treatment with a patient he calls “Jessica”. When he first meets with Jessica Dr. Von Glahn struggles to get her to open up about her problems. Unable to remain home alone with her young child while her husband is at work she spends every night at her mother’s house. Along with this Jessica has lost the ability to drive. She has no explanation for these dramatic changes in her life and the doctor can’t seem to break through the barrier she has set up. She is completely unable to speak about herself.
After many months it is Jessica who comes up with the bold idea of increasing her sessions to four hours daily and eventually to four days a week. It is this courageous step that eventually leads Jessica and Dr. Von Glahn to make successful advances in her therapy. Dr. Von Glahn feels that Jessica has lost her “humanness” and it is by reaching back to her very beginning that first opens the door to restoring her to a “human” able to express her needs without fear.
This is an inspiring exploration of the basic humanness in all of us and the vital need to realize its importance. Navigating new paths in therapy with Jessica’s help and bravery Dr. Von Glahn allows the reader to follow their journey. I highly recommend this book for anyone with an interest in human nature, psychology, and mental health issues.
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This remarkable book shares the amazing journey of healing shared with us by her therapist. Together they plunged into the depths of the human psyche even unto the earliest memories and deepest wounds. This case study reveals a radical view of catharsis and the human spirit.
This was such a good book. The skill of the writer, as well as the pacing pulled me along in the story. The work follows the writer as he coaches Jessica through her psychotherapy sessions. We discover why she is the way she is, and we experience her earliest memories. It highlights the importance of being connected to one's family. The language is appropriate for the subject matter. I enjoyed the clinical, "true account" manner of the telling. Definitely a fascinating change from my normal fict
This was such a good book. The skill of the writer, as well as the pacing pulled me along in the story. The work follows the writer as he coaches Jessica through her psychotherapy sessions. We discover why she is the way she is, and we experience her earliest memories. It highlights the importance of being connected to one's family. The language is appropriate for the subject matter. I enjoyed the clinical, "true account" manner of the telling. Definitely a fascinating change from my normal fictional reading. A recommended read.
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MindBlowing!
#RRBC Who remembers accounts of their infancy? Of being born? Practically no one. But Jessica is an exception. She remembers before and after her birth. And it points out the fact that it’s so important to get a good start because it can profoundly affect the rest of your life either positively or negatively. Dr. Jeffrey takes you through the stages of Jessica’s life and paints a riveting portrayal of a damaged woman who somehow regains her sense of self. Good plot, good pace, excell
MindBlowing!
#RRBC Who remembers accounts of their infancy? Of being born? Practically no one. But Jessica is an exception. She remembers before and after her birth. And it points out the fact that it’s so important to get a good start because it can profoundly affect the rest of your life either positively or negatively. Dr. Jeffrey takes you through the stages of Jessica’s life and paints a riveting portrayal of a damaged woman who somehow regains her sense of self. Good plot, good pace, excellent story! Good Job!
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I've been a psychotherapist for 40+ years. If I believed in reincarnation, I'd want to come back as one! I can't imagine a more meaningful experience than one person helping another in a time of need. My sense of how a therapist is "helpful" is, of course, radically different from the mainstream view. Basically, I listen attentively, fully accept whatever the client is talking about (and especiall
I've been a psychotherapist for 40+ years. If I believed in reincarnation, I'd want to come back as one! I can't imagine a more meaningful experience than one person helping another in a time of need. My sense of how a therapist is "helpful" is, of course, radically different from the mainstream view. Basically, I listen attentively, fully accept whatever the client is talking about (and especially when I don't fully understand why he/she is talking about it), gently encourage them to say more about the emotionally painful parts, hope the person gets more emotional, with indignation (preferred over "anger")and crying as the optimal outcome. The current "official" view of therapy is, sadly, burdened by a serious misconception about emotional experiencing. The fear of "re-traumatizing" a client strikes fear into the minds and hearts of everyone in the field, especially administrators. There is absolutely no fear of this happening if emotional experiencing spontaneously arises from the support the client receives. I view what I've written about as therapeutic crying as psychotherapy's Best Kept Secret!
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