THE SUNDAY TIMES AND NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Ronda Rousey is one of the most dominant mixed-martial-arts fighters in history. UFC’s undefeated bantamweight champion, and an Olympic medallist in judo, her professional fight record is unrivalled: she has defeated most of her opponents in less than a minute; in February 2015 she beat contender Cat Zingano in just fourteen se
THE SUNDAY TIMES AND NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Ronda Rousey is one of the most dominant mixed-martial-arts fighters in history. UFC’s undefeated bantamweight champion, and an Olympic medallist in judo, her professional fight record is unrivalled: she has defeated most of her opponents in less than a minute; in February 2015 she beat contender Cat Zingano in just fourteen seconds.
In
My Fight Your Fight
Rousey relives the toughest fights of her life. Her journey to the top has been filled with challenges, including a childhood marked by speech problems and the painful loss of her father. As she grew up she repeatedly pushed her mind and body to the limit in the pursuit of victory, enduring gruelling training sessions and brutal competition. Meanwhile in her private life she battled for love and family. She is responsible for the inclusion of women in UFC, and has overcome all who have got in her way. She has now forged a successful Hollywood career as an actor, starring recently in
Fast & Furious 7
and
Entourage
. Through it all, she has always found a way to win.
In this unforgettable and inspiring book Rousey shares her hard-won lessons, including how we can all be at our best, even on our worst days, and how we can turn our limitations into opportunities.
My Fight Your Fight
will leave you ready to face your own challenges in life, whatever they may be.
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Kindle Edition
,
324 pages
Published
July 2nd 2015
by Cornerstone Digital
(first published April 15th 2015)
My son, daughter and I are huge Rousey fans and I pre-ordered this book after my fifteen-year-old daughter BEGGED me to buy it for her. She was super excited when it came in. I can't get her to read much of anything (she won't even read my own books), but she hasn't taken her face out of MY FIGHT / YOUR FIGHT and she brings it everywhere we go. I'll be driving and trying to listen to my country music, but she's sitting there reading the book out loud. I enjoy it so much, I turn off the radio and
My son, daughter and I are huge Rousey fans and I pre-ordered this book after my fifteen-year-old daughter BEGGED me to buy it for her. She was super excited when it came in. I can't get her to read much of anything (she won't even read my own books), but she hasn't taken her face out of MY FIGHT / YOUR FIGHT and she brings it everywhere we go. I'll be driving and trying to listen to my country music, but she's sitting there reading the book out loud. I enjoy it so much, I turn off the radio and listen. It's a good book about life. Very inspirational. I'm thrilled that my daughter is reading and that she has a strong female role model to admire. Very much recommended!!!
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Four years ago, Dana White told TMZ no women would ever fight in the UFC. Now, he’s written the foreword for the most dominate athlete in the history of the UFC; his undefeated UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion, “Rowdy” Ronda Rousey.
Because, quite frankly, Ronda Rousey does not give a fuck. She not only had the ambition coming off of her 2008 Beijing Olympic bronze showing to be the best in the world, but to be so fucking great it wasn’t even a question. And it’s not.
For someone that was living
Four years ago, Dana White told TMZ no women would ever fight in the UFC. Now, he’s written the foreword for the most dominate athlete in the history of the UFC; his undefeated UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion, “Rowdy” Ronda Rousey.
Because, quite frankly, Ronda Rousey does not give a fuck. She not only had the ambition coming off of her 2008 Beijing Olympic bronze showing to be the best in the world, but to be so fucking great it wasn’t even a question. And it’s not.
For someone that was living in her car working three jobs to get by shortly after bronzing in Beijing, her ascent to the top of the UFC, woman or otherwise, and her break into the mainstream in movies, television and with this book, is astonishing. But really, not altogether surprising.
Since she was six, she was learning judo from her tiger of a mom, a world champion in the sport herself. Throughout the book, these two strong personalities run up against each other, but the mom is clearly a grounding force for Ronda. Fight hurt. Fight harder. Train harder. Be harder. Do what it takes to be the best and beat the best even if you’re having an off day.
The namesake of the book is apt in this regard because Ronda, while telling her own story, is also “coaching” us, as it were, on how to fight for life. Each chapter — and they are short, easy-read chapters — begins with a little bit of that wisdom and knowledge gained over years of sweating, bleeding and crying on mats all over the world, perfecting her craft.
True to character of those that rise to the tip top of human excellence, her attitude — some would say cocky and arrogant, or more demeaning, “bitchy,” — rubs people the wrong way. But when someone is “in the moment” propelled by that type of drive and ambition, they aren’t there to play nice. They’re there to fight and win and then some. For instance, true to their rivalry, Ronda clearly does not like Miesha Tate.
The book excels at two polar opposite characterizations of Ronda Rousey: First, at exploring the mind of an elite, world-class athlete and fighter — not just what it takes to win once you’re inside the Octagon, but what it takes to make it to the Octagon as a fighter and a person — including the doubters; those that didn’t venturing into MMA was smart. Secondly, Ronda, through talking about her stumbling love life, one with a boyfriend that was a heroin addict and one with a boyfriend she not so affectionately refers to as Dick IttBitty in the book, and her struggles with bulimia, mostly when trying to make weight, serve to make her more human, to bring her down to our level.
And besides, the writing itself, even though it was co-authored by her sister, Maria Burns Ortiz, has markings of Ronda’s playful goofiness and at other times, her unrelenting, unabashed sentiment toward other fighters or situations.
If you’re a fan of the sport, a fan of hers, a fan of sports, a fan of journey stories, then this is a fun and enlightening read for you. Reading many of the bits of wisdom before each chapter and then how Ronda turned that into a reality for success, it makes you want to go run up a mountain and take life by the balls.
But for now, I’ll settle in with some more coffee and marvel at the wonder that is Ronda Rousey.
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The actual review:
I haven't seen a single Ronda Rousey fight. I'm scared to. I can barely handle movie fights. Given that I had to cringe-skim the
descriptions
of fights in this book, I'm not sure I'm up to seeing the real thing, even on a tiny computer screen with the volume on low.
So why did I want to read this book?
I've heard Rousey interviewed, and I've heard a lot of interviews about her. They all say the same thing: she
The short review:
DON'T MESS WITH RONDA ROUSEY.
The details:
SERIOUSLY.
The actual review:
I haven't seen a single Ronda Rousey fight. I'm scared to. I can barely handle movie fights. Given that I had to cringe-skim the
descriptions
of fights in this book, I'm not sure I'm up to seeing the real thing, even on a tiny computer screen with the volume on low.
So why did I want to read this book?
I've heard Rousey interviewed, and I've heard a lot of interviews about her. They all say the same thing: she's badass. She's breaking boundaries. She never flippin' loses.
What really made me want to read her story, though, is my curiosity about her family, especially her parents. I'd heard that her dad committed suicide, and her most recent opponent was stupid enough to trash-talk about that. (Don't cry, Bethe Correia.)
(Update: Okay, I just watched the Rousey/Correia fight. It was a pretty awesome 34 seconds, not at all gory.)
Anyway. I'd also heard that Rousey's mom was a total badass. In an interview with an L.A. morning radio show, Rousey mentioned breaking a toe in a judo match when she was a little kid and having her mother tell her to get back out there. I believe the phrase she used was, "You've got nine more."
Rousey sounded unruffled, even amused by this anecdote. So far as she was concerned, her mother was teaching her to be a champion rather than a loser who limps out of the ring after the first owwie.
So far as
I
was concerned, either her mom ought to be brought up on child abuse charges or there was something I wasn't hearing.
So when I heard Rousey had written an autobiography, I figured that was the place to go for answers.
And it was. Ronda Rousey's mom is practically the main character of
My Fight.
She's arguably the most entertaining, sympathetic, and inspiring one.
The toe anecdote is much more nuanced than that interview led me to believe. For one thing, it happened at a practice, not during a match. For another – well, let me let Ronda tell this part:
When I was twelve years old we were at practice when one of my teammates twisted her ankle. She limped off the mat, and both of her parents descended upon her in concern. Her dad rushed out to their car, returning with a pillow. With her mom massaging her shoulders, my teammate sat with her foot propped up. Less than twenty minutes later, I jammed my foot doing
randori,
the judo version of sparring. I limped over to my mom, who was running the practice.
"I hurt my toe," I said. "I think it's broken."
"It's a toe," she said dismissively.
"But it hurts," I said, crying. "Do you have a pillow for me?"
My mom looked at me like I had lost my mind.
P.S. Ronda didn't get the pillow. Instead, she got to run laps. Because mean mommy. Or maybe because:
"You know why I did that?" my mom asked.
"Because you hate me."
"No, it was to show you that you could do it," my mom said. "If you want to win the way you say you do, you need to be able to compete, even when you're in pain. You need to be able to push through. Now you know you can."
Ronda's mom, AnnMaria De Mars, was a judo champ herself – the first U.S. competitor (of EITHER sex) ever to win at the World Judo Championships. She knew what it takes to be, quite literally, a world-class competitor. And she knew how much her daughter wanted to be such a competitor.
And guess what? There's no comfy pillow on that ride. Sorry, Ronda.
But if you work your hardest and earn her respect, that badass mom will be there for you all the way.
If you get hurt during a match, she'll let you sulk around the house for a week after your knee surgery, and then she'll make you get off your ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself:
"Didn't you hear the doctor?" I snapped. "I'm not supposed to overdo it with my knee."
"Yeah, well, what about your other leg?" she asked, rhetorically. "Do some leg lifts. What about your abs? Last time I checked sit-ups didn't involve knees. Do some curls. Those involve arms, which last time I checked are not knees."
If you plan to fight in a particular tournament but you show up in the wrong city weighing the "wrong" amount, you can call this badass mom in the middle of the night and wake her from a sound sleep and she'll tell you exactly what you need to do, including who to call and what to say:
"Tell Valerie to go to the coach's meeting tonight and move you up to seventy kilos. Linz is not that far from Vienna. You are going to go to the airport in the morning and get a ticket. You will go to the tournament, and everything will be fine."
"But they'll all be bigger than me," I said, still crying.
"Well, no, apparently, they'll all be seventy kilos, which is what you are now," my mom said. "You might feel like this is a terrible thing, but this isn't the worst thing that could happen. You've been in the top ten at sixty-three kilos for years, so all these girls are training for you. Nobody at seventy kilos is expecting you. Just go out and fight. There are no expectations."
And when you medal at the Olympics, this mom will wave the American flag that had been put on your dad's coffin, and then you'll go on to write about it and make your readers cry. In a good way.
My Fight/Your Fight
is a fun, fast, engaging read. There are a lot of photos, but they don't feel like filler. There are also a
lot
of memorable moments, both from Rousey's professional life and her personal one.
Practical tip for men:
If you're lucky enough to date Ronda Rousey, do right by her. She forgives mistakes because she's made plenty of her own. She forgave a boyfriend for stealing her wallet and her car, because he brought them both back and then he went into rehab the next day.
However, cheating on her is not a "mistake." Neither is taking pictures of her naked body without her knowledge or consent and downloading them onto your computer. If you do either of those and you're lucky, all you'll get is a chapter in her autobiography and a really humiliating pseudonym. If, however, you're under the illusion that those naked pictures could be explained away, and you try to physically force her to stay and hear your side of the story, you'll learn what it's like to fight Ronda Rousey and you won't even have a shot at a medal and some prize money.
One aspect of this book I particularly appreciated is the dollars and cents. For a long time, Rousey was the kind of broke that seems harder to survive than 10 rounds in the Octagon.
I was touched when she talked about finally landing a Strikeforce fight. Those paid a lot more than what she'd been making, and she was ecstatic. She was also shopping at Rite Aid when she got the call, and decided she could finally afford to splurge. So what did she get?
An electric toothbrush. Expensive whitening toothpaste. Eyeliner. Nail polish. I didn't even know how to put nail polish on, but I threw it in with everything else. I grabbed the nice, soft toilet paper.
I've never lived as mean as Ronda's had to, but I still have times when I have to wait until payday to buy a jar of instant coffee, and I'm still buying the cheap t.p.
There were other places I found it surprisingly easy to relate to Rousey's life. She talks in this book about struggling with an eating disorder, a depressingly natural consequence of spending her life trying to attain an unnaturally low weight:
Virtually no athlete competes in a division that is actually their weight. Most athletes walk around considerably heavier than competition weight in daily life. In the UFC, I fight at 135 pounds – and for about four hours a year, I weigh 135 pounds. My actual weight is closer to 150.
"Making weight" – that is, being the weight you want to compete at when you step on the scale at the official weigh-in before a fight – may be something that, as Rousey says,
all
fighters struggle with. But it strikes me as an awful lot like the pressure that's on women to be slim even if that means running around feeling hungry all the time, which is something else Ronda describes that I can relate to.
It was a relief when, later in the book, she got some help – not from a therapist, but from a man who works with lots of fighters as a nutritionist:
When I started working with [Mike] Dolce, I felt guilty for being so full all the time. Then one day, it clicked:
Oh, I'm supposed to be full.
For a long time, the feeling of being full and the feeling of guilt were synonymous to me.
(Second update: I just watched another fight. The clip was included in a Jimmy Kimmel interview on YouTube. This was the 14-second fight, whichever one that is. It turns out that
watching
Ronda Rousey do her magic is easier than reading about it, because you can't tell by watching that she dislocates elbows with that arm bar. It just looks amazing. Also, I now have an official crush on Rousey's arms.)
As I was reading this book, southern California was (and still is) suffering from a brutal heat wave. I don't have air conditioning, and I live in an uninsulated second-floor apartment. Even after leaving all possible windows and blinds open all night long, the temperature in my bedroom has been 80+ degrees at 6 in the morning, and it's depressing to watch it climb steadily upward as the day progresses.
My family thinks I'm nuts – possibly dangerously so – for continuing to work out in this heat. I did give in and cut way down on jogging; but on what would have been running days, I swapped in a rigorous indoor workout, including a three-day-a-week triceps challenge. (Hey, our living room has a decent standing fan. It's amazing how cool its blast can feel when you work up a really big sweat, which isn't difficult at all lately.)
Ordinarily I would have felt more than justified in taking a day or two off until the temperature learned to behave itself. I have a tendency to get medically dehydrated, and that's no fun at all. I'm just getting over a fun bout of that. (My lips were burning for days. Even putting Chapstick on hurt. Woohoo!)
But this week, I just couldn't give myself that break. Every time I started to feel tempted to go back to bed and skip the workout, or just sit around sipping iced beverages all day, I'd remember Ronda Rousey. Or rather, I'd remember her mother:
Growing up, Mom hammered into me how much harder champions worked than anyone else. When I complained about going to practice or when I hit the snooze on the alarm instead of getting up to go running, my mom would say casually, "I bet [whoever my archrival at the time happened to be] is training right now."
She had me stay after practice and work on drills. Whenever I pointed out that no one else's mother made them stay, she simply informed me, "Champions always do more."
Exasperated, I whined, "Mom, I've been here for an extra fifteen minutes. Everybody's already left. I've already done more."
She simply told me, "Champions do more than people who think that they've done more."
(Final update: Just watched Ronda Rousey demonstrate the armbar on Jimmy Fallon. I've never seen a grown man so terrified in my life. Makes me want to give ju-jitsu another shot – I loved how surprised guys were when I was a bitsy little 16-year-old and could slam them down on the mat without breaking a sweat. I should start taking classes again, when I can afford to. For now, I think I'll shop around online and see if I can find a "WWRRD" bracelet.)
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Ronda Rousey and Maria Burns Ortiz make an excellent writing team. The writing is uplifting and positive, with lessons applicable to everyone in everyday life.
The format is clean and simple. Each chapter starts with a moral, lesson or message that is then expanded with Rousey’s real life experiences. This is a brilliant way to present material that, in this genre, has can be overdone and overloaded with facts and statistics. As a general reader who is interested in the person behind the legend,
Ronda Rousey and Maria Burns Ortiz make an excellent writing team. The writing is uplifting and positive, with lessons applicable to everyone in everyday life.
The format is clean and simple. Each chapter starts with a moral, lesson or message that is then expanded with Rousey’s real life experiences. This is a brilliant way to present material that, in this genre, has can be overdone and overloaded with facts and statistics. As a general reader who is interested in the person behind the legend, I don’t concentrate on days, times and match results and find them distracting to the story. Rousey and Burns Ortiz create a good balance with family and sport stories that keep the reader fascinated.
While some of the prose reads like a diary, and can be lacklustre, it gives the reader a peek into Rousey’s life outside of the ring. Not all of her life has been sensational, overdone by Hollywood, and the reader needs to remember that. She did start off as a young girl with a dream.
Rousey sets the bar high for all of us. “If you can’t dream big, ridiculous dreams, what’s the point in dreaming at all?” Exactly. With guided action and belief in oneself, all big dreams are absolutely attainable.
My favorite line in this book is in the Thank You section. Rousey’s last thank you is “… to every asshole who motivates me to succeed out of spite.” I would love to see these inspirational sayings on a Ronda Rousey calendar, mat or other empowering products.
Not so much an autobiography as an extended podcast interview, this book is nonetheless an interesting portrait of a, incredibly dynamic personality. This would be a great read for either an aspiring athlete, who wants to know what his/her priorities should be in training, or someone who is experiencing career setbacks.
I have never been so inspired by a memoir, and so awestruck by another human being. To say Ronda Rousey is my hero is an understatement. She is an impeccable human being, and completely unapologetic about it. In a world that attempts to limit and stifle, Rousey gives it the finger. In a society where woman are constantly undervalued, questioned, and brushed off, she refuses to be ignored. She will never say she is sorry because she isn't. If you do not like who she is, get out of her ring. I can
I have never been so inspired by a memoir, and so awestruck by another human being. To say Ronda Rousey is my hero is an understatement. She is an impeccable human being, and completely unapologetic about it. In a world that attempts to limit and stifle, Rousey gives it the finger. In a society where woman are constantly undervalued, questioned, and brushed off, she refuses to be ignored. She will never say she is sorry because she isn't. If you do not like who she is, get out of her ring. I can only hope to be a fraction of the amazing woman she is someday.
One quote in particular stood out to me. In the chapter titled "When do you cross the magical boundary that stops you from dreaming big?" she wrote...
"People talk about how I'm so arrogant. They don't realize how much work went into getting where I am. I worked so hard to be able to think highly of myself. When people say 'Oh you're so cocky. You're so arrogant.' I feel like they're telling me that I think too highly of myself. My question for them is: 'Who are you to tell me that I need to think less of myself?'"
No one has the power to make you feel devalued, except for you. My life has been a constant struggle of telling myself I am worth the things I want. I am an amazing, capable, and independant person. Anyone who tells me to be less can get bent. Who are you to tell me I need to think less of myself?
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The people in Ronda Rousey’s life are all portrayed honestly. She doesn’t hold herself or her family up as pinnacles of anything. They’re flawed people, as we all are. Rousey doesn’t shy away from describing the poor choices she made, which led to the toughest times in her life.
Some people have complained about the language in this book, but I don’t get that. If she’s portraying her life, she should portray it in the words that are relevant to her life. If her mama
Characterization and badassery
The people in Ronda Rousey’s life are all portrayed honestly. She doesn’t hold herself or her family up as pinnacles of anything. They’re flawed people, as we all are. Rousey doesn’t shy away from describing the poor choices she made, which led to the toughest times in her life.
Some people have complained about the language in this book, but I don’t get that. If she’s portraying her life, she should portray it in the words that are relevant to her life. If her mama screamed the F-word at her, then that’s what should be in the book. That’s her world, and learning about her world is the point of reading the book.
I first noticed Ronda Rousey because of the noise in the media about her as a UFC fighter. I got this book because I was interested in finding out about her story and her road to success. This book did not make me like Ronda Rousey more. She made a lot of poor choices, including letting a string of boyfriends treat her like dirt, which pisses me off. But what I do like is that she isn’t trying to make me like her with her book. She lets all of those flaws and mistakes hang right out there. She lets her arrogance fly, because arrogance is what’s kept her fighting all these years. She doesn’t pretend a humility she doesn’t have.
So the irony is that the fact that the book didn’t try make me like her, kinda makes me like her.
Plot and pacing
The story starts with her birth, and follows a loosely chronological sequence. I say loosely because you think you get a picture of a particular time period and move forward, then there’s a flashback or additional information tidbit that throws the chronology off and made me think, “Oh wait, what?” So there are some disjointed parts.
Overall, the pace works fine. I liked the detail of her Olympics matchups and her MMA/UFC bouts. As for the plot, this is a rough outline of the bigger points of her life, on her road to success. The book brings her up to current day, and of course, she has the greater portion of her life to live yet. Hopefully, she will continue to strive and reach and achieve, and in another ten or twenty years, there will be another book from her.
Humor
Nope. Not funny. This is mostly gritty, and very real. There are some moments of backward contemplation, but they’re kept to a minimum. The tone is completely appropriate with her story.
Summation
This is a good book, if you’re interested in the life of a fighter. Particularly a female one. I liked getting her perspective on specific fights, and watching clips of them on Youtube. Having that first-person retrospective got me looking at far more UFC fights than I’ve ever watched before.
I found this title interesting, engaging, and I learned a good bit about judo competitions, UFC, and the sad state of USA Judo. (At least during the time that Rousey competed. I’m hoping they do better by their athletes now.)
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Ronda Rousey is one of my favorite MMA fighters, but after reading her story of struggling and loss on her way to superstardom I have a new found respect for her as well. She had a lot of ups and downs in her life and career. I'd say more downs than ups. She has the will to do anything and she has chosen to share her gift of MMA with us all. Her passion for whatever she is doing is second to none. She strives to be the best and accepts nothing less. That is what lead her to a Bonze medal in the
Ronda Rousey is one of my favorite MMA fighters, but after reading her story of struggling and loss on her way to superstardom I have a new found respect for her as well. She had a lot of ups and downs in her life and career. I'd say more downs than ups. She has the will to do anything and she has chosen to share her gift of MMA with us all. Her passion for whatever she is doing is second to none. She strives to be the best and accepts nothing less. That is what lead her to a Bonze medal in the 2008 Olympics and what has made her a undefeated UFC Champion. Ronda has not only opened to worlds eyes to women's MMA she had transcended the sport and has become a huge celebrity. She is to be commended for her constant strides and her no nonsense attitude towards her detractors.
She is a model person and someone to look up to, not only for girls but for everyone that has struggles in their lives and have to figure out a way to over come them.
It's a great story and a must read for and MMA or sports fan.
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When Ronda Rousey came on the Joe Rogan podcast in 2011, I fell a little bit in love with her. After listening to her talk and seeing some of her early fights on YouTube, I waited in anticipation for Tate vs Rousey 1. I have never really been into sports and never thought that I would enjoy MMA (mixed martial arts) or any combat sports. However, since Tate vs Rousey 1, I was able to find the beauty in the technique and skill of these elite athletes. 4 years later, I now train similarly to these
When Ronda Rousey came on the Joe Rogan podcast in 2011, I fell a little bit in love with her. After listening to her talk and seeing some of her early fights on YouTube, I waited in anticipation for Tate vs Rousey 1. I have never really been into sports and never thought that I would enjoy MMA (mixed martial arts) or any combat sports. However, since Tate vs Rousey 1, I was able to find the beauty in the technique and skill of these elite athletes. 4 years later, I now train similarly to these athletes and would consider myself a "UFC Fan" - something that would have been an insult to me 5 years ago.
I credit Rousey for doing that. She captures the imagination in some way that I don't see from other athletes. This book is kind of a nuts and bolts tale of what goes in to making a person like Rousey. When she started fighting, there were no female UFC fighters or division. She is a person who can literally create her dream job when that job doesn't even exist. The book details her struggles to create a platform that would not only help her achieve her own dreams but also help generations of female fighters achieve theirs.
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Disappointing in that the book is focused too much on gossip and dialogue of past "slights" and grievances perceived by Rousey. It does do a good job of highlighting just how driven she is, but for the most part the book reveals what we pretty much already knew: Rousey is a tremendously gifted athlete and wears her emotions on her sleeve.
Compared to the Georges St. Pierre biography, where he takes a much more philosophical and nuanced look at life, relationships, and what it means to be a martia
Disappointing in that the book is focused too much on gossip and dialogue of past "slights" and grievances perceived by Rousey. It does do a good job of highlighting just how driven she is, but for the most part the book reveals what we pretty much already knew: Rousey is a tremendously gifted athlete and wears her emotions on her sleeve.
Compared to the Georges St. Pierre biography, where he takes a much more philosophical and nuanced look at life, relationships, and what it means to be a martial artist; this book comes off as the very thing that Rousey claims to despise: a reality-show personality project.
Written by Rousey's sister, this book is much too "us against the world", lacking the deep questions of a GSP bio or the neutrality of a Steve Jobs type book where the writer is not afraid to paint the subject in a sometimes negative light.
Although I've had a general interest in martial arts for about 25 years, MMA has really never appealed to me. I knew Ronda Rousey by name, but it was really only peripherally, and it wasn't until semi-recently that I started paying attention to what she actually does. The first fight of hers I saw was the 14-second fight, because the entire thing fit into Instagram posts.
Anyways, now that I've been paying attention to her, and learning that her background in judo included the Olympics, it seemed
Although I've had a general interest in martial arts for about 25 years, MMA has really never appealed to me. I knew Ronda Rousey by name, but it was really only peripherally, and it wasn't until semi-recently that I started paying attention to what she actually does. The first fight of hers I saw was the 14-second fight, because the entire thing fit into Instagram posts.
Anyways, now that I've been paying attention to her, and learning that her background in judo included the Olympics, it seemed like that would be an interesting story to read about. And just like she does in a fight, Ronda delivers on the page. While she definitely skims over some things, all around she is very brutally honest, willing to admit to all her faults in addition to her triumphs. And offering no apologies for anything.
Her years in competitive judo were INTENSE. And the time between judo and starting MMA were a completely different kind of intense. She has definitely worked hard and earned all of the prizes and trophies and titles that she can lay claim to.
Overall, this is a pretty quick and easy read, but it's definitely worth the time. Like the title of the book suggests, while Ronda is telling her story, she also writes to motivate readers to win the fights we all face in life. Maybe not in an Octagon, but the same mentality can translate to all the other fights that we do fight, with friends, family, work, etc.
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I knew a fair bit about Ronda Rousey because I live with someone borderline-obsessed with MMA. In fact, we have the Rousey-McMann fight poster on the wall in our living room. I read this to get a better feel for her as a person, because her persona is very easy to dislike: she's the best in the world, but she's also the first person to announce it. She seems to have some measure of contempt for other women, not just her competitors but most women (see her "DNB" comments) who are not Olympians.
I
I knew a fair bit about Ronda Rousey because I live with someone borderline-obsessed with MMA. In fact, we have the Rousey-McMann fight poster on the wall in our living room. I read this to get a better feel for her as a person, because her persona is very easy to dislike: she's the best in the world, but she's also the first person to announce it. She seems to have some measure of contempt for other women, not just her competitors but most women (see her "DNB" comments) who are not Olympians.
I ended up learning a lot about her, and although she's still arrogant and not exactly likable, I do now find her understandable. She has had a lot of bad breaks in her life -- she almost died at birth and didn't speak until she was 3, and not intelligibly until later. Her father broke his back in a freak accident and then killed himself when he was told he'd eventually be a quadriplegic. She battled bulimia while she was studying judo. She moved across the country alone to live with her coach in Buffalo when she was 16. So, it was not easy to be Ronda Rousey, is the general point here.
I ran up against the same problem I had Phil Jackson's memoir -- by her telling everyone who ever beat her on the mat cheated, or the refs were wrong/stupid, and she always should have won. Okay, that's not particularly believable or, more to the point, admirable. Still, her Olympic and MMA journeys were interesting, but on the other hand her personal life was kind of a mess. I had to keep reminding myself that she was dating these incredible losers when she was very young, and that it shouldn't necessarily reflect on her decision-making abilities as an adult. I will say fully disbelieve her "I've always wanted to act" position -- I think it's just a cash grab and she should own that.
One of her sisters is a journalist and served as her co-author, so that's neat.
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When I started the book I found Ronda arrogant but by the time I was half way through, I agreed that she has earned that arrogance. I loved the book.
Sometime one's reaction to a book is a reflection of one's current circumstances. I may have read it at the right time and setting but I think I would like to keep this book with me for long.
Some excerpts I like:
"You have to fight because you can’t count on anyone else fighting for you. And you have to fight for people who can’t fight for themselv
When I started the book I found Ronda arrogant but by the time I was half way through, I agreed that she has earned that arrogance. I loved the book.
Sometime one's reaction to a book is a reflection of one's current circumstances. I may have read it at the right time and setting but I think I would like to keep this book with me for long.
Some excerpts I like:
"You have to fight because you can’t count on anyone else fighting for you. And you have to fight for people who can’t fight for themselves. To get anything of real value, you have to fight for it."
"In the moments that you fall the hardest - when you lose a job, or find out a boyfriend is cheating on you, or realize that you made a bad financial decision - you can channel your shame, your anger, your desire, your loss. You can learn, take chances, change course. You can choose to become so successful that no one can ever put you in a situation like that again."
“I’m going to be super successful one day, and I’m going to write a book. It’s going to be a kickass autobiography. And this is how it always happens in the book. This is just that part of the book where the character is going through hard times. This is that sucky part of the story. Just get through a few more pages, and it’s going to have an amazing ending.”
As the UFC's charismatic first woman fighter and first woman champion, Ronda Rousey has rocketed to mma stardom.
This book offers a glimpse into her career and rise to stardom. Rousey's no holds barred honesty fits her persona and gives this book an edge. The fun, engrossing writing style makes it lethal entertainment. Surprisingly well written for an mma book, the storytelling has a definitive rhythm and deliberate flow; this is not the cash-grab others in the sport have dumped off at their fan
As the UFC's charismatic first woman fighter and first woman champion, Ronda Rousey has rocketed to mma stardom.
This book offers a glimpse into her career and rise to stardom. Rousey's no holds barred honesty fits her persona and gives this book an edge. The fun, engrossing writing style makes it lethal entertainment. Surprisingly well written for an mma book, the storytelling has a definitive rhythm and deliberate flow; this is not the cash-grab others in the sport have dumped off at their fans' expense. This book smashed all my expectations and I highly recommend it for any fan if Rousey, mma or sports in general.
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Because I'm not a do-nothing bitch
" -
Ronda Rousey
No, ma'am, you are not.
It is amazing what Ronda is doing for the sport. I've witnessed it firsthand: I come from Lithuania where MMA is just barely starting to catch on in recent years. Even the people who follow the sport got into it through RINGS, PRIDE FC (Bushido), RINGS or K-1 HERO'S, because UFC was considered by many Lithuanian "pundits" to be too
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and tainted by WWE-ishness (with haters pointing the finger to outspoken and color
"
Because I'm not a do-nothing bitch
" -
Ronda Rousey
No, ma'am, you are not.
It is amazing what Ronda is doing for the sport. I've witnessed it firsthand: I come from Lithuania where MMA is just barely starting to catch on in recent years. Even the people who follow the sport got into it through RINGS, PRIDE FC (Bushido), RINGS or K-1 HERO'S, because UFC was considered by many Lithuanian "pundits" to be too
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and tainted by WWE-ishness (with haters pointing the finger to outspoken and colorful characters like Ortiz, Lesnar and Sonnen).
Now, in part due to UFC's [de facto] monopoly in the sport, the Octagon is starting to grow on my countrymen thanks to its growing international roster with the likes of McGregor, Jedrzejczyk and Gustafsson. Yet, even those European names are only known to male fans of the sport. One name, though, crossed not only the Atlantic ocean, but also the athlete/celebrity barrier. Rousey smashed her way through the sport's glass ceiling to become a major celebrity. I actually had
female
friends looking forward to her fights and joining my
male
friends to watch the UFC. More so, they were genuinely interested in her fights and asked questions about her. You cannot imagine how bizarre that was for ME, somebody who had trouble finding ANYONE to enjoy a UFC card with only 5 years ago.
Just like Brock Lesnar did during his foray into MMA, she brings in a substantially new audience. Brock brought in the casual pro-wrestling fans who gave UFC a chance and stuck with it. Ronda brings in not only the feminists and girls who don't want to be 'Do-Nothing Bitches' (#DNB), but also the general public who tune in due to the curiosity factor.
The book isn't spectacular or a must-read, but it is a great window into Ronda's mindset. You can go through the chapters and see what made her the ruthless bitch she is today. And I say "bitch" with all due respect and as a true fan: I mean... that is what I love about the
Rowdy
one. Every so often she uses curse words and strong language; she isn't afraid to express her feelings and she is not one of those girls who's
No
means
Yes
or
Yes
means
No
. Unfortunately, that straightforward type of personality really makes for dynamic and sometimes even explosive personal relationships. You really get to see how Ronda's relationship with her mother works: AnnMaria De Mars is such a strong and fascinating character that she should have an autobiography of her own. But what's even more interesting (in a 'train-wreck' kind of a way) is the UFC champs romantic life.
We live in a give-and-take World. If you are that preposterously good at ANYTHING, you almost owe it to the Cosmos [or whatever governs this loony theater we call Life] to suck at SOMETHING. And "Rowdy" Ronda Rousey most definitely sucks at picking men.
*Nope, this is not where I jump in with how I am the perfect man for her, because me and reality - we stay in touch*
In defense of her exes, though, it has to be noted that Ronda isn't a rainbow of flowers of a girlfriend herself. I only hope that with her strong personality she will one day find the Yang to her Yin and write her "Happily Ever After" in the book to come. Spoken like a true rent-a-philosopher, I have.
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When I was young, it was my grandfather who got me into MMA. On the many weekends where my grandparents would take me to spare me from my parents fighting endlessly, my grandmother would go to bed early and we'd stay up 'til all hours. Armed with the chocolate bars he kept in the crisper, we'd flip channels, watching everything from boxing to judo to early MMA and UFC.
If my grandfather -- a black belt in judo who'd done local competitions -- had the option, he would always choose female fighters
When I was young, it was my grandfather who got me into MMA. On the many weekends where my grandparents would take me to spare me from my parents fighting endlessly, my grandmother would go to bed early and we'd stay up 'til all hours. Armed with the chocolate bars he kept in the crisper, we'd flip channels, watching everything from boxing to judo to early MMA and UFC.
If my grandfather -- a black belt in judo who'd done local competitions -- had the option, he would always choose female fighters for our entertainment. "I love the women fighters because they're so technical," he'd tell me. "Because they have to try three times harder to be taken seriously."
It was my first lesson in sexism and how it played out in so many ways. It was a mantra I took to heart. I tried three times harder than anyone I knew, just to be told that I was "enough" for someone.
I wish my grandfather had lived to see Ronda Rousey dominate. He would have loved her.
I lead with this story because My Fight/Your Fight is more than a memoir. It's a guidebook of hard-earned lessons that can be extrapolated to ANY fight. Presented more as a collection of episodic moments with meaning, My Fight/Your Fight charts Rousey from birth to stardom, from mistakes to making it big in MMA. And, as my grandfather so astutely understood, it's a journey that demonstrates the many ways female athletes are underestimated, undervalued and forced to fight just that much harder for the recognition and support they deserve.
It's also a humanizing look behind the polish and sheen of The Show, as UFC calls it now. Ronda isn't afraid to call it as she sees it, admit to foolish mistakes or put her raw moments on display. In a world that already wants to slag women for being emotional, Ronda shouts, "Screw you, big girls cry. I cry. And?" I love that honesty about the book. It's far easier to relate to someone willing to flash their scars, their wounds and their potentially mortifying moments -- if it helps get the message across.
At times, it's easy to see Rousey as a superhuman, given her domination. What she's trying to convey in this book is that we can all be superhuman at our passions, as long as we fight for it. We're all just people, waiting for the next round to begin.
If you're a Rousey fan, you'll probably like this book. Here's two excerpts:
1) "Many people think that when you do an armbar, the arm breaks. But it doesn’t break. When you do an armbar, the aim is to put so much pressure on the person’s arm that you pop the joint out of the socket. You can feel it when it pops. It’s like ripping the leg off a Thanksgiving turkey. You hear it pop-pop-pop, then squish. Pulling her arm straight, I arched back until I felt the squish, her ligaments snapping between
If you're a Rousey fan, you'll probably like this book. Here's two excerpts:
1) "Many people think that when you do an armbar, the arm breaks. But it doesn’t break. When you do an armbar, the aim is to put so much pressure on the person’s arm that you pop the joint out of the socket. You can feel it when it pops. It’s like ripping the leg off a Thanksgiving turkey. You hear it pop-pop-pop, then squish. Pulling her arm straight, I arched back until I felt the squish, her ligaments snapping between my legs. She was still trying to escape. As soon as I felt the joint pop, my focus shifted to protecting myself and preventing her from escaping. I grabbed her hand and pushed it over the side of my hip, forcing her elbow to go more than ninety degrees in the wrong direction. I ripped off muscles from her bone and tendons. With a vise grip on her injured arm, I sat up to punch her in the face with my other hand. With her elbow fully dislocated, there was nothing holding her in that position anymore except the pain and her fear of me. She tapped. Then, as far as I was concerned, she disappeared."
2) "In judo, so many people care about rank and what degree black belt they are. I have never gotten caught up in that. Rank is based solely on a board of people getting together and saying, 'Oh, you deserve to be such-and-such a rank.' Once you give them the power to tell you you’re great, you’ve also given them the power to tell you you’re unworthy. Once you start caring about people’s opinions of you, you give up control. It’s the same reason I don’t get caught up in being the crowd favorite when I fight. It’s why I don’t read things that are written about me. One of the greatest days of my life was when I came to understand that other people’s approval and my happiness were not related."
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An easy read on an amazing life (so far). After finishing it I had a similar feeling to when I saw the Amy Winehouse documentary, except Rousey is anything but a tragic figure. This book was exactly what I needed in my life right now.
I don't watch UFC (yet) but I was familiar with Ronda Rousey because of her quick fights, overall athletic dominance, and starry career. What I learned was far deeper than I expected, and I am now a solid fan of hers. I'm looking forward to the next fight, but also
An easy read on an amazing life (so far). After finishing it I had a similar feeling to when I saw the Amy Winehouse documentary, except Rousey is anything but a tragic figure. This book was exactly what I needed in my life right now.
I don't watch UFC (yet) but I was familiar with Ronda Rousey because of her quick fights, overall athletic dominance, and starry career. What I learned was far deeper than I expected, and I am now a solid fan of hers. I'm looking forward to the next fight, but also to internalizing her daily life, at least in parts, into mine.
Could have finished this book in a couple of days but I took my time. The writing is descriptive and easy as well as heartbreaking and funny. I had every single human emotion one could hope for in a book. I loved it so much I have to read it again! Ronda to me is not only powerful but an inspiration for anyone who reads this book! Worth every cent I paid!
I really enjoyed the specific narrative about the day of the fight, from the point of waking up to the point of entering the right. That seemed most interesting.
With the presence of Rousey in modern media, I felt like I had a grasp on the general narrative. It was nice to humanize her with the inclusion of a love life (not even hinted at in public), shit that scares her, her time as a three job hustler.
There is so much more to Ronda Rousey than meets the eye.
Sure she's a badass Olympic judo medallist and women's MMA pioneer; but she's also the feisty sister, the loving aunt, the emotional girl, the strong woman, the independent woman, the actor. She's had an interesting life to say the least, and I'm glad I haven't had to deal with a lot of the stuff she's been through, but I'd still love to be like her.
I'm not necessarily a huge fan of her/her mum's philosophies on winning at any and all co
There is so much more to Ronda Rousey than meets the eye.
Sure she's a badass Olympic judo medallist and women's MMA pioneer; but she's also the feisty sister, the loving aunt, the emotional girl, the strong woman, the independent woman, the actor. She's had an interesting life to say the least, and I'm glad I haven't had to deal with a lot of the stuff she's been through, but I'd still love to be like her.
I'm not necessarily a huge fan of her/her mum's philosophies on winning at any and all costs and disregarding medical advice whilst recovering from injuries, and that was what lost the fifth star for me.
This is otherwise a candidly written biography that is written how Ronda Rousey speaks, and I found it to be conversational, full of excellent swear words and peppered with humour. An great biography of a super cool chick.
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I was fight fan back in the day but the fight game has changed and it's just not the same. But I started watching UFC/MMA over the last few years and it can be a very interest and unique style of fight anything goes. I won't say i'm a huge fan and I won't spend the money on PPV to watch but i'll check out some of the big matches.
Rousey being the pioneer into the sport and her determination to succeed is very interesting and is shown throughout the book. It is interesting the training and differe
I was fight fan back in the day but the fight game has changed and it's just not the same. But I started watching UFC/MMA over the last few years and it can be a very interest and unique style of fight anything goes. I won't say i'm a huge fan and I won't spend the money on PPV to watch but i'll check out some of the big matches.
Rousey being the pioneer into the sport and her determination to succeed is very interesting and is shown throughout the book. It is interesting the training and different skills that they have to work on to be at the top of their game.
What I like about biography's is seeing the steps people have to take to get from point A to Z and this book does that. It lets you see the struggles of a young women turning into wonder women.
It was a good read!!
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I hardly ever read non-fiction, let alone autobiographies, but I'll make an exception for Ronda Rousey. A nice insight into her journey to becoming the absolute best in the world, this book is very Ronda-ish: not too eloquent, a lot of Miesha Tate-hating, a bit arrogant. But hey, she has every right to be. Her drive and way of dealing with injury is inspiring, and I have even more respect for her now.
This book gave me an insight to Ronda and her life and style. It was informative and a good read. The language was definitely out if control but I did realize that us her as a person.
It wasn't the deepest book, but I don't think it was supposed to be. I wouldn't have thought there was anything that Ronda has left out, with her life from childhood to UFC Champion and all the highs and lows in between. Whilst the motivational quotes might not seem new, I do like her frankness especially relating to other fighters, USA Judo and UFC - I do hope that doesn't come back and bite her in the arse. However after reading about her training and motivation for fighting the best part of t
It wasn't the deepest book, but I don't think it was supposed to be. I wouldn't have thought there was anything that Ronda has left out, with her life from childhood to UFC Champion and all the highs and lows in between. Whilst the motivational quotes might not seem new, I do like her frankness especially relating to other fighters, USA Judo and UFC - I do hope that doesn't come back and bite her in the arse. However after reading about her training and motivation for fighting the best part of the book was right at the end in the acknowledgement section ...
"And to every asshole who motivates me to succeed out of spite"
There isn't much I could write that would do this book justice. The perfect concoction of inspiring, genuine, action and emotion packed. The truthful and shocking inside story of the masterpiece that is Ronda Rousey
Absolutely fantastic! I was already a huge fan, but getting to read about her journey from her perspective made me appreciate her even more. So much of what she says is useful in everyday life.
As with most books about fighters, if you don't like fighting or competition then this is not for you because Rousey is unapologetic and upfront about her desire to win. She is also candid, funny and more honest than I expected. I came away from this seeing a more complete human, not to mention someone who cries an awful lot, and someone so incredibly driven that it makes me a little ashamed to be the same age as her and not achieved half as much. I have never had to live in my car though, so th
As with most books about fighters, if you don't like fighting or competition then this is not for you because Rousey is unapologetic and upfront about her desire to win. She is also candid, funny and more honest than I expected. I came away from this seeing a more complete human, not to mention someone who cries an awful lot, and someone so incredibly driven that it makes me a little ashamed to be the same age as her and not achieved half as much. I have never had to live in my car though, so that's a bonus.
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Ronda Jean Rousey (born February 1, 1987) is an American mixed martial artist, judoka and actress. She is the first and current UFC Women's Bantamweight Champion, as well as the last Strikeforce Women's Bantamweight Champion. She is undefeated in mixed martial arts, having won all of her twelve professional fights. She won eleven of her fights in the first round, and nine by armbar. Rousey was the
Ronda Jean Rousey (born February 1, 1987) is an American mixed martial artist, judoka and actress. She is the first and current UFC Women's Bantamweight Champion, as well as the last Strikeforce Women's Bantamweight Champion. She is undefeated in mixed martial arts, having won all of her twelve professional fights. She won eleven of her fights in the first round, and nine by armbar. Rousey was the first U.S. woman to earn an Olympic medal in Judo at the Summer Olympics in Beijing in 2008. In 2015, Rousey was ranked number one of fifty Most Dominant Athletes Alive.
“You have to fight because you can’t count on anyone else fighting for you. And you have to fight for people who can’t fight for themselves. To get anything of real value, you have to fight for it.”
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“Life is a fight from the minute you take your first breath to the moment you exhale your last.”
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