All Out! An Autobiography

I strongly recommend "All Out" for experienced REBT therapists, clinicians who are new to the model, and general consumers. Ellis uses his own techniques to shamelessly disclose some of his own immoral behaviors, including teenage frotteurism and fathering three illegitimate children. The book includes many photos from Ellis's life that have never before been published. In addition, readers will gain a unique understanding of the theory and practice of REBT through Ellis's personal narrative.

I must admit that I was surprised to read and learn about some of Ellis's behavior, especially how he fathered three illegitimate children with a married woman while the woman's husband had no clue. I prefer not to explicate the details because they are quite involved and, anyway, I prefer to leave it a mystery for you. After reading the book, I felt more than disappointed in Ellis, who was my first mentor. But I quickly used the REBT on myself to dispute the irrational belief that Ellis should not have done such acts and that he was a bad person for doing them. I also gave up the idea that people, especially people whom I admire and respect, absolutely must live up to my expectations. Too bad! That's not the way the world is. I then felt sorry and disappointed in some of Ellis's behavior, but not him as a total human being. I could almost hear the late, great Albert Ellis say to me, "That's rational!"