This witty, provocative, and utterly honest exploration of the personal landscape of failure in a larger philosophical context will change the way readers view their own lives. The author's own struggles are chronicled, from trying to fit in at his posh prep school, to dealing with his rejection from Harvard, to making peace with his failure as an academic, and betraying h
This witty, provocative, and utterly honest exploration of the personal landscape of failure in a larger philosophical context will change the way readers view their own lives. The author's own struggles are chronicled, from trying to fit in at his posh prep school, to dealing with his rejection from Harvard, to making peace with his failure as an academic, and betraying his beloved wife after she was diagnosed with cancer. By breaking his silence and examining his own enduring sense of failure, he confronts the terrifying fear of failure--a universal feeling everyone can relate to.
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This was a personal gift from the author (sort of a disclaimer). I always feel like knowing the author changes some things. And indeed it does: he is patient and probably a better teacher than I will ever be. He said I had a very common failing of many academics: impatience. Well, the author has patience.
Perhaps this shows in an indirect way. One needs patience to put up with the narrator's self-indulgent painful self-reflexivity. I have some sympathy for it myself; after all I see my ancestors
This was a personal gift from the author (sort of a disclaimer). I always feel like knowing the author changes some things. And indeed it does: he is patient and probably a better teacher than I will ever be. He said I had a very common failing of many academics: impatience. Well, the author has patience.
Perhaps this shows in an indirect way. One needs patience to put up with the narrator's self-indulgent painful self-reflexivity. I have some sympathy for it myself; after all I see my ancestors shadily as the balding old man in Prufrock. I have, however, little readerly patience. And the one downside of this is that it didn't tell me anything I didn't know, philosophically... is it because I have over-thought American culture? Neurotics relate, and while I relate enough in some ways, not all... the fear of being a failure... oddly enough I don't fear it. Kind of because of my knowledge that we are ALL failures, to a large extent (perhaps, having read too much Lacan?). So having failed even before I've set forth is the precondition for any success. And any success guarantees more failure, which is a precondition for more success.
It actually doesn't matter, to me. I never got the whole posturing thing either; I couldn't empathize with that. Different background... loving books, in my world, it wasn't considered intellectual. I had (and have) no desire to be cool. Never did. I've always wanted to fit in, I've never wanted to be different (at the same time, one IS different, which makes one, comfortingly, boringly, the same).
I say Josh should think less of his inhibitions and write because when the prose DOES take off it can be quite beautiful. The irony is brave of him -- the affect he chooses to convey. But at the same time (and knowing the author this might be true) the acute sense is more one of self-loathing than failure. In that sense it's 'performative' and in another it's no excuse. I think at some level the narrator failed at failing. Failure requires faith, and maybe he is a bit too fearful, too doubtful, for that.
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This is a really well written and brutally honest book. Gidding has the wit and style! It was a good read indeed.
But, yes, there are times when you want to slap him on the face for being such a whiny and ungrateful dude. Come on man, you went to Exeter, Berkeley, wrote a novel at 26 and you are tenured professor now! Why are you complaining? Why "Failure"? Not being accepted by Harvard is a big issue for him, but I'm sure he would have found many excuses to gripe even if he got accepted.
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This is a really well written and brutally honest book. Gidding has the wit and style! It was a good read indeed.
But, yes, there are times when you want to slap him on the face for being such a whiny and ungrateful dude. Come on man, you went to Exeter, Berkeley, wrote a novel at 26 and you are tenured professor now! Why are you complaining? Why "Failure"? Not being accepted by Harvard is a big issue for him, but I'm sure he would have found many excuses to gripe even if he got accepted.
OK, maybe this doesn't make him justice; he acknowledges the burden of being raised as a privileged boy. Maybe it is the dominant father figure. I don't know. I don't want to play the amateur psychoanalyst here. Grab the book and you decide. For my part, I am happy to have read the book not only because it's well-written but also it made me realize one more time that no matter how much one achieves s/he may still feel discontent. So I should stop bashing my self.
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I have the pleasure of having him be a professor of many of my classes and working one on one with him. I enjoyed his writing immensely and found it to be extremely revealing and raw -- but in the best way -- he bares himself in a way few would.
A truly courageous memoir, in which the author examines how he's fallen short in som many aspects of his life. Of course, such honest soul searching is the path to redemption.